Where have I been? An update

It’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted here. I miss my blogging friends and their  wonderful blogs that enlighten and inspire me to live my Christian faith where God has placed me.

Family life is busy, sometimes rushed, and never boring. Although most of my kids are young adults (and a couple of them do not live at home), the two youngest children still need to be driven everywhere – swimming lessons, music lessons, summer day camps, orthodontist appointments…. you get the picture! Time spent with my family is my first priority.

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By the grace of God, my nursing work has kept me very busy over the last few months. I am very grateful for the work that I do and continue to ask Our Lord to allow me to serve Him in my neighbour through the skills He has given me.

I have accepted an invitation to establish a Parish Nursing ministry at my parish. For now, this is a paid, part-time position but there is so much potential for growth. I am very excited and extremely grateful for this opportunity. I am still working towards certification in Parish Nursing; the Fall semester will include 4 one-day seminar classes and a whole lot of essays (!)

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My husband and I celebrated our thirtieth wedding anniversary in July. To commemorate the occasion, we and most of our children are taking a little holiday on Manitoulin Island, a beautiful area in northern Ontario. For many years, we rented a cottage there with our growing family. On the occasion of our thirtieth anniversary, we are looking forward to peace, quiet, and family time at a spot that holds many happy memories.

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The Catholic Insight website where I also blog is undergoing some changes over the next few months so my work there will be sporadic. For the time being, the Priest Blog at Catholic Insight is still posting thoughtful, informative homilies every Sunday.

But no matter how hectic life gets, there’s always time for Holy Mass,

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Eucharistic Adoration,

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and family prayer.

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Please God, I hope to visit with you all again soon. Take care of yourselves. God bless you and the wonderful way you live out your Christian faith.

Soli Deo Gloria!

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Humanae Vitae and thirty years of marriage

wedding ringsMy husband and I celebrated our thirtieth wedding anniversary earlier this week. Over on my blog at Catholic Insight, I wrote an article on how we have tried to live our married life informed by the teachings of Pope Paul VI’s encyclical, Humanae Vitae. Here’s the link if you’d like to read it.

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Faith of our Fathers: the Church militant

ChurchMilitantTen years ago in July 2005, Canada legalized same-sex “marriage.” It took the United States ten years to catch up, but finally this past week, SCOTUS ruled in favour of same-sex “marriage.” We all know that the ruling in both Canada and the United States affects more than homosexual couples wishing to tie the knot. Their insistence that marriage laws and the definition of the family be changed to reflect their values has repercussions that continue to challenge those of us who believe that marriage is between one man and one woman, ordained by God.

When same-sex “marriage” became legal in Canada, marriage commissioners who refused to preside at homosexual weddings were made to resign. A Knights of Columbus chapter in British Columbia was fined $2000 by the British Columbia Human Rights Tribunal for refusing to rent their hall for a lesbian wedding reception. People have been fined for expressing their opposition of same-sex “marriage” in letters to the editor and have lost their businesses for refusing to provide services for same-sex weddings. Trinity Western University in British Columbia, a Christian university, is fighting a ruling upheld in several provinces that refuse to accredit their law school graduates. This is because students at Trinity Western are required to abstain  from sexual intimacy “that violates the sacredness of marriage between a man and a woman.” In Ontario, a new gay-friendly sex education curriculum is being introduced in all publicly funded schools despite massive protests from thousands of concerned citizens.

The United States is just beginning down the road of the destruction of the traditional family and Christian values. The story of the Christian couple in Oregon who lost their bakery and have been ordered not to talk publicly about their religious beliefs because they refused the request of a lesbian couple is just the latest incident. In total, twenty two countries recognize same-sex “marriage.”

The other day, as I was thinking about the increasing attacks on traditional family values and on religious freedom and freedom of speech, the hymn Faith of our Fathers came into my mind. I didn’t know anything about the history of the hymn or its author so I did some research.

Faith of our Fathers was written by Frederick William Faber, a theologian, poet, writer and priest who lived in Victorian England. The son of a Calvinist minister, he was born in Yorkshire, England on 28 June 1814. After serving two years as an ordained minister in the Church of England, he converted to the Roman Catholic Church. With John Henry Newman, he founded the Oratory in London. While Blessed John Henry Cardinal Newman went on to establish the Birmingham Oratory, Father Faber remained in London. For his prodigious work, he was granted a Doctor of Divinity degree by Pope Pius IX.

He wrote about anti-Catholic sentiment and increasing secularism even among Catholics of his time. Of Christians abandoning their beliefs in favour of the secular attitude of the day, he wrote that God was “an inconvenience in His own world, an impertinence in His own creation. So He has been quietly set on the side as if He were an idol out of fashion, and in the way. Men of science and politicians have agreed on this and men of business and wealth think it altogether the most decent thing to be silent about God; for it is difficult to speak of Him or have a view of Him without allowing too much of Him.”

In The Creator and the Creature, Father Faber explained that the degeneration of morals and the spread of modern apostasy was  “because mankind has forgotten that we are creatures in need of a Creator.” Mankind, he observed, had embraced the spirit of worldliness: “It is a false faith, a false religion. It does not recognize the right of the Creator, nor occupy itself with the duties of the creature. It begins with self and ends with self, and if compelled to lodge an appeal outside itself, it appeals to the judgments of human respect…. The creature forgets himself and makes himself the standard of truth.”

Father Faber wrote 150 hymns that expressed Catholic beliefs, practices, and history. His most famous hymn, Faith of Our Fathers, was written as a remembrance of the suffering and martyrdom that Britain’s Catholics endured under King Henry VIII and Queen Elizabeth I.

Father Faber could just as well have written about the state of the world today. I wonder if he would be surprised at how deeply the spirit of worldliness has attacked Christian beliefs.  But we can never lose hope because we know that Truth triumphs over evil. And so we continue to humbly and charitably speak the Truth and uphold and defend Christian beliefs. We are the Church Militant.

We must have the kind of faith immortalized in Father Faber’s hymn. We must have faith that is uncompromising, honours the blood of the martyrs who have gone before us, and is willing to say, in utmost charity: No. We will not comply. We will not deny Truth. We will lay down our lives for God and Holy Mother Church.

Faith of our fathers, living still,
In spite of dungeon, fire and sword;
O how our hearts beat high with joy
Whenever we hear that glorious Word!

Faith of our fathers, holy faith!
We will be true to thee till death.

Our fathers, chained in prisons dark,
Were still in heart and conscience free:
How sweet would be their children’s fate,
If they, like them, could die for Thee!


Faith of our fathers, we will strive
To win all nations unto Thee;
And through the truth that comes from God,
We all shall then be truly free.


Faith of our fathers, we will love
Both friend and foe in all our strife;
And preach Thee, too, as love knows how
By kindly words and virtuous life.


The original third stanza reflected Faber’s hope that England would once again be a Catholic country. It was omitted by Faber’s publisher so that the hymn would be acceptable to Protestant denominations.

Faith of our fathers! Mary’s prayers
Shall win our country back to thee;
And from the truth that comes from God,
England shall then indeed be free.

Illustration: Detail of Blessed is the Host of the King of Heaven (alternatively known as Church Militant). Russian icon, ca. 1550 – 1560. Tretyakov Gallery. This icon is traditionally perceived as an allegorical representation of the conquest of the Kazan khanate. In the public domain. Wikimedia.org

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The Mass as Spectacle

ConsecrationThree weeks ago at Sunday Mass, I spent an hour in total amazement watching how thoroughly Holy Mass can be reduced to a loud, irreverent spectacle.  After many days of replaying the incident in my mind, I managed to put my jumbled, upset thoughts into a blog post. It’s on the Catholic Insight website (here).

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Living Out the Great Commission: Practical Tips to Evangelize our Youth

“It’s very important for parents to remember that, even though God might give you the great responsibility to be the primary educator of your child with regards to the faith, He also gives you the corresponding grace to actually do what must be done.” Fr. Eric Mah is a priest of the Archdiocese of Toronto. His Trinity Sunday homily addresses the important subject of parents’ responsibility to hand on the Catholic Faith to their children.

go and make disciples of all nationsIn today’s Gospel (Mt 28:16-20), we hear what is most commonly known as the so-called “Great Commission”. After the Resurrection, Jesus appears to His disciples and says to them: “Go forth, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit” (Mt 28:19). But we often forget the line which comes immediately afterwards, which gives the first line some context. Jesus says to them: “[Yes], go forth and make disciples of all nations; [but at the same time, teach] them to obey everything that I have commanded you” (Mt 28:19-20).

We might say that the Lord is saying to them this: “Yes, introduce these people to the divine life – the life of the Trinity – the life of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit – by introducing them to the grace of the sacraments, whether we’re talking about Baptism, the Holy Eucharist, Confession, or whatever the case might be. But in order that the divine life might take hold, and in order that the grace of sacraments might actually flourish and develop, make sure that these people actually know their faith!” In other words, it’s not enough for people to simply receive “valid sacraments”: they actually have to know how to live their faith in a very real and practical way – lest they actually lose their faith in a matter of time.

To illustrate the point, let me give you an example: imagine a child who is born and then is baptized a few weeks later. This is followed by the important period between the date of the child’s baptism and Grade 2: the year of First Reconciliation and First Communion. Now, the question is this: “What kind of faith formation will this child typically receive during this period of time?” I would suggest something like this: “Be nice. Be kind. Be obedient to your parents. Be obedient to your teachers. Don’t lie. Don’t steal. Be a good little boy or girl.” We might perceive, though, that there’s something lacking with this type of approach: it’s not sufficiently rooted in the Ten Commandments, and it’s not mindful of a certain relationship with God. It’s basically all about trying to be a good citizen in the midst of secular society: there’s nothing really distinctively “Christian” about it. Now, one might say: “Well, that’s just because of their particular age group: they’re just in Grade 2 after all!” And let’s presume that we give you that. And so, the child receives First Reconciliation and First Communion.

But then, what happens after that? This is followed by that crucial period between Grade 2 and Grade 7 or Grade 8: the year when the child receives the Sacrament of Confirmation. What kind of faith formation will the child typically receive during this period of time? I would suggest something not too far off from what he or she received just before: “Be nice. Be kind. Be obedient to your parents. Be obedient to your teachers. Don’t lie. Don’t steal. Be a good person.”

The child then receives the Sacrament of Confirmation. Then the child goes off for further studies, reads a few secular books, meets a few secular friends who perhaps challenge the child very aggressively about his faith. The child begins to question his or her faith. Then eventually, perhaps not right away, the child will probably lose his or her faith. The child might continue a certain superficial practice of the faith: he or she might continue going to Mass on Christmas and Easter, with a few smattering instances of Sunday Mass attendance in between. But for all intents and purposes, he or she will probably become a so-called “practical atheist”.

Why does this happen? Perhaps because somewhere along the line, the child will come to the conclusion that the Catholic faith just isn’t up to much, that it’s too childish, not sufficiently intellectual, and that it’s not sufficiently rooted in right reason to deal with the sophisticated, adult problems that he or she faces every day. And so, perhaps he or she will say to herself: “Well, it’s not as if I really want to stop being a practicing Catholic; but it’s just that my faith seems completely inadequate to deal with the many problems that I’m facing in my everyday, adult life!”

The reality, though, is not that the faith lacks a certain substance: the reality is that the child stopped learning about the faith back when he or she was in Grade 2, if not even before! In other words, the child may have received a number of “valid sacraments” over the course of his or her life, but this was not met with a corresponding growth in knowledge as to how to live the faith in a very real and practical way. And the end result was a total loss of faith. I’m not sure if that’s surprising or shocking, but that I would submit to you is the typical “faith journey” of your average Catholic child living in the world today.

Of course, the question is: “What do we do about it?” To preface everything we’re going to talk about from this point on, it’s very important that we pray, we trust and we believe. In other words, we must always remember that God is ultimately the author of conversion; such that, if a person makes even the slightest movement back towards the Lord, it is always primarily by the grace of God. And so, we must pray, we must offer sacrifice, and we must trust and believe that in the fullness of time, in His own particular way, God can bring anyone back from the brink. Again, no matter what the stage of your child’s faith journey, even if you’re living in an “empty nest” situation, it is very important that you pray, trust and believe.

family rosaryBut what might we do on a practical basis to actively cooperate with God’s grace? I would recommend three things. First of all, parents must always remember that they are the primary educators of their kids with regards to the faith (cf. CCC 2221). I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had parents come up to me and say: “You know, Father, I really wish someone would talk to my kids about the Catholic faith!” Quite honestly, I say to myself many times: “Well, how about you?” Now, I appreciate the value of sometimes having a third party talk with your kids about the Catholic faith; and so, if you want me to talk to your kids, I’ll talk to your kids! But the whole point is that parents simply cannot abdicate their responsibility to be the primary educators of their kids with regards to the Catholic faith.

Now, there might be any number of interested parties or groups, such as the government, Catholic school teachers, youth ministers or even Catholic priests, but these groups and persons are meant to help, they’re meant to assist, but they’re never meant to replace. Parents are always meant to be the primary educators of their kids with regards to the faith.

These persons or groups might know more than you about the Catholic faith. And so, if you find that you have certain gaps in your knowledge of the faith, you should definitely take the appropriate steps to rectify the situation, perhaps by reading, for example, the Catechism of the Catholic Church  or the Compendium of the Catechism of the Catholic Church, both of which are readily available free of charge on the Vatican website.

But there is always something very special and unique about the parent/child relationship which simply cannot be duplicated in any other relationship in the modern world. When mom or dad says to their child: “Do this. Don’t do that. This is right. This is wrong. This is true. This is false,” the child receives that information and is transformed by it in a way that simply cannot be duplicated in any other relationship in modern society. It’s very important for parents to remember that, even though God might give you the great responsibility to be the primary educator of your child with regards to the faith, He also gives you the corresponding grace to actually do what must be done.

The second point is this: repetition, repetition, repetition. A few years ago at my last parish, a parent came up to me and started giving me tips about how to visit the schools. She basically said: “Father, when you visit the kids in the schools, you really have to teach them how to go to the Sacrament of Confession – and not just once! You have to teach them over and over again, because that’s how they learn to really appropriate the concept!” I remember thinking to myself: “Well, yeah, you’re right! But don’t put this primarily on me! This is primarily on you as the primary educator!”

child in confessionI’ve gone to the schools many times to teach them how to receive the Sacrament of Confession. But I believe I speak for priests everywhere when I say that a constant source of frustration for all of us is that, when we go to the schools to hear kids’ confession, many times they don’t know the Act of Contrition; and many times, they actually get up to leave before you can say the words of absolution! Think of it like this: if you go to Confession and you don’t expect to say “sorry” and you don’t expect to be forgiven for your sins by Christ through the words of the priest, then what’s your notion of Confession? Confession becomes an empty ritual! And what’s the grace that one obtains in that situation? I would submit: not that much!

That’s the great value of repetition! In the case of the Sacrament of Confession, for example, the point is to not simply develop a “basic familiarity” with the ritual, but to actually make going to Confession normative – such that Confession stops being a “weird thing” that we do, perhaps, once or twice in our whole life; but rather, it becomes something that we’re just completely familiar with because it’s something we just talk about all the time as a Catholic family, and it’s something that we actually do all the time as a Catholic family!

Obviously, we can’t talk to someone in Gr. 2 in the same way that we’d talk to someone in Gr. 8. We have to tailor our message to the particular age group that we’re addressing. But, again, that’s the great value of repetition! Because, even though we might be talking about the same topic repeatedly, we can approach it from several different angles depending on with whom we are speaking.

For example, let’s consider the Fifth Commandment: “Thou shall not kill”. If you’re talking to your toddler, you wouldn’t want to lead by talking about murderous psychopaths roaming the countryside! That’s just not prudent, and it’s probably just bad parenting! Perhaps what you might do instead is to speak, at least indirectly, about the dignity of the human person (cf. CCC 1700). You might begin by talking about how everyone comes from God, and is ultimately destined to return to God (cf. CCC 1700). And what this means is that everyone is special: everyone deserves respect. This might lead to a discussion of what it means to actually treat people with dignity and respect, and what it means to treat even yourself with dignity and respect.

Later on, you might talk about self-defence. You might say: “Yes, if someone attacks you with physical aggression, it is a legitimate thing in certain cases to defend yourself even using physical force” (cf. CCC 2263). But, at the same time, you might bring in issues of proportionality (cf. CCC 2267) or proximity (cf. St. Thomas Aquinas, ST II-II.64.7). Later on, you might start bringing up certain “hot topic” issues like euthanasia (cf. CCC 2276-2279), abortion (cf. CCC 2270-2275) and suicide (cf. CCC 2280-2283). And after that, you might bring up more complex topics like the principle of “double effect”, formal vs. material cooperation or the “just war” theory (cf. CCC 2309). In every instance, we’re still talking about the Fifth Commandment; but every time, we’re doing so in such a way that is appropriate to the particular age of the child that we’re dealing with. And so, again: repetition, repetition, repetition.

The third and final point is perhaps the most important one: live the integrated life. For example, I remember years ago reading about a study that dealt with the question of what was most influential in the formation of children’s particular notion of sexual morality (cf. Ford, 2005). You might expect that a study like this would simply say that parents were most influential in the formation of their kids’ opinions with regards to sexual morality, as opposed to friends or teachers; and it certainly said that. But the study went one step further by suggesting that what was most influential in the formation of kids was not so much what parents said; but rather, it was what parents actually believed! In other words, if parents talked to their kids without really believing what they actually said, the implication was that their kids might listen politely to what their parents were saying, but they wouldn’t ultimately be changed. On the other hand, if the parents actually believed what they were saying, and this was backed up by what they actually did, then their kids would be changed. Then they would be transformed!

conversion of St. PaulOne of the best examples of this is to reflect on the life of St. Paul. As you might recall, St. Paul often said that he “preached nothing but Christ crucified” (cf. 1 Cor 1:23; 2:2). And there are moments in his letters when St. Paul was merely raising the historical fact that Christ suffered and died on the Cross, and then came back from the dead. We’re certainly not discounting any of that. But, if we really want to understand what St. Paul means when he says that he “preached nothing but Christ crucified”, we have to look back on who he was before his conversion: back when he was known merely as “Saul”. Because, when he was simply “Saul”, St. Paul was not a good person; he was actually a very evil, wicked person. He was actively involved in the work of genocide because he was killing the early Christians (cf. Acts 9-1-2)!

But then, what happened? He encountered the crucified Christ on the road to Damascus who said to him: “Saul, Saul, why do you persecute Me” (Acts 9:4). That’s when he started to become this person who was all about love, communion and personal sacrifice. That’s when he started to become the so-called “Apostle to the Gentiles”!

At a priest seminar a few years ago, I heard a great analogy which underlined this point about St. Paul. And so, the speaker said: imagine if someone like Adolf Hitler or Saddam Hussein (people who were actively involved in mass genocide) had a massive conversion experience, turned from their evil ways, and then started preaching all about love, communion and personal sacrifice – and then even wrote a sonnet about love that would be used in weddings throughout the world and throughout human history!

Well, that’s St. Paul! “Love is patient, love is kind…” (cf. 1 Cor 13:4-8). When people saw this, they would remember: “Hey, weren’t you the guy who used to go around killing Christians?” But then they would see that he was now completely different. And so, at the very least, they would listen to him, not so much because of what he said, but because of who he was! In other words, they would listen to him because of his integrated sense of Christian witness. That’s the value of living the integrated life.

I realize that there’s a lot here for us to consider. But if we can try to implement even a few of these points: to remember that parents are the primary educators of their kids; to remember the value of repetition; and to remember the value of living the integrated life, then we can go a long way towards building up the Christian family; and thereby, at least begin to “Christianize” modern society.

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Enthroning the Sacred Heart of Jesus in our Families

sacred-heart-tinToday is the Feast of the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Enthroning the Sacred Heart of Jesus in our families is one of the best things we can do. Two years ago, with the help of a friend who is a priest, we enthroned Jesus’ Sacred Heart in our family.  I wrote about it (here) on my blog at Catholic Insight.

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Bishop Athanasius Schneider – Holy Communion on the Tongue

As Dominus est - it is the Lordwe prepare to celebrate the Feast of Corpus Christi this Sunday, June 7, 2015, I am re-linking to my Catholic Insight article on why Holy Communion should be received on the tongue. The article is based on Bishop Athanasius Schneider’s important book, Dominus Est – It Is The Lord, in which Bishop Schneider explains why the reverent reception of Holy Communion on the tongue is necessary to the life of the Catholic Church.

Here’s the link to the article: http://catholicinsight.com/bishop-athanasius-schneider-holy-communion-on-the-tongue/

Schneider, A. (2008). Dominus Est – It is the Lord! Reflections of a Bishop of Central Asia on Holy  Communion. New Jersey: Newman House Press.

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Charlie Charlie: a wake-up call for sobriety

St. Michael the ArchangelI had a talk with my teen-aged kids about the Charlie Charlie craze that has spread throughout social media in epidemic proportions. Charlie Charlie is the “poor man’s Ouija Board” that summons a Mexican demon who answers participants’ questions, much like a Ouija Board. Until I explained how Satan deceives us with his lies, they thought the Charlie Charlie Challenge was just an innocent game.

After speaking with my kids, I wrote about Charlie Charlie on my blog at Catholic Insight. I invite you to read it here.

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In Honour of World Communications Day 2015

One of my greatest pleasures and privileges as a blogger is to be part of the team at CatholicMom.com. On this website, founded by author and speaker, Lisa Hendey, I write a Gospel reflection for the third day of each month. I also contribute an article for the first Friday of each month.

For World Communications Day, May 17 2015, CatholicMom.com produced this youtube video honouring families. The theme of World Communications Day is “Communicating the Family: A Privileged Place of Encounter with the Gift of Love.” The video reflects this theme by showing the families of CatholicMom.com contributors. My family is around the 3:36 mark.

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St. Gianna: the modern woman’s saint

Also posted at Catholic Insight

St. Gianna Beretta MollaIt is said that God gives us the saints we need in our time. Saints who, by their lives rooted in self-surrendering, self-sacrificing love show us how to conquer the darkness of the world in which we live and rise to their ranks. In our time, when so many women continue to deny their authentic femininity as ordained by God, He has given us St. Gianna Beretta Molla.

16 May 2015 marks the eleventh anniversary of St. Gianna’s canonization by Pope St. John-Paul II. We know St. Gianna as a pro-life saint because she chose to save the life of her unborn baby instead of opting for surgery that would have saved her life at the expense of  the life of her unborn daughter.

But if we examine her life, we come to know a thoroughly modern, vivacious woman who had all the marks of success in the world. At a time when women typically did not work outside of the home, St. Gianna was a well-loved physician with a thriving medical practice. Not only was she a working mom (unheard of in her day) who sometimes had childcare emergencies, she was a female doctor in a male-dominated profession. She believed that she was called by God to be a physician. Reflecting on her work as a doctor, she said: “We touch Jesus in the bodies of our patients.” To her, work was prayer: “We are apostles, and if we do not want our work to be in vain, but to be effective, there is only one method that will not fail: prayer. We must pray with faith, hope, charity, humility, devotion, and reverence…. Work can be prayer … if we offer to the Lord all the actions that we perform so that they might serve His glory.”

All of the published photos of St. Gianna show a strikingly beautiful, elegantly dressed, lively, confident young woman. She enjoyed beauty; she enjoyed life. Her husband, Pietro, said: “Gianna was a splendid, but ordinary woman…. She was stylish and elegant, a beautiful and intelligent woman who loved to smile. She loved going to the mountains and she skied very well. She loved music. For years we had season tickets for the concerts at the Milan Conservatory…. She also liked to travel.” St. Gianna appreciated the beauty of women expressed in refined fashion. Shortly before the birth of their fourth child, as Pietro prepared to leave for business trip to Paris, St. Gianna asked him to bring back some French fashion magazines. “If God keeps me here, I would like to make some nice clothes.”

Her letters to Pietro, written when he was away on frequent business trips, revealed a woman passionately in love with her husband who missed him when he was away and who at times was frustrated with his absences. Pietro was the plant manager for a large manufacturing company and business travel was necessary; therefore, she always tried to be supportive of his trips away. She wrote that she “missed [his] warm embrace,” and the “strength and support of [his] presence.” She believed that Pietro “completed [her] has a human being.” The married couple knew the importance of spending time together. They regularly attended concerts, plays, movies, and art galleries in Milan. St. Gianna traveled with Pietro on one of his extended business trips, leaving the children in the care of their relatives.

A devoted mother, she juggled the needs of her growing family with the demands of a busy medical practice. She wanted a large family and thanked God when she realized she was pregnant with her fourth baby.

It wasn’t long before she noticed an abnormal swelling in her abdomen. Her brother, Ferdinando, also a physician, assisted Dr. Vitali during the surgery to remove a large benign tumour growing on her uterus.  Ideally, the uterus ought to have been removed, but at her insistence, it was kept intact so the baby would not be harmed. In his clinical report, Ferdinando noted: “the patient did not hesitate to place the baby’s life ahead of her own, knowing what could occur, and pleaded with the surgeon to respect her wishes during the operation.”

After recovering from the surgery, she returned to her work and the pregnancy proceeded cautiously. Although she knew there could be further danger to the uterus, she abandoned her life to God’s Providence. Pietro recalled that Gianna “prayed to the Lord, to Our Lady, and to [her] own mother that the right and guarantee to life for the baby in [her] womb might not require the sacrifice of [her] life, that [she] would be spared for the sake of our children and our family.”

St. Gianna’s and Pietro’s four child, Gianna Emanuela Molla was born by cesarean section on 21 April 1961. Within a few days, St. Gianna was diagnosed with septic peritonitis. The painful agony that followed would have been unbearable if not for her immense faith. She called to Jesus for help as she clasped and kissed a crucifix. “Oh, if Jesus were not here to console us at times like this…” she murmured.  She found the strength to receive Our Lord in the Holy Eucharist. After one week of intense pain, her self-sacrifice almost complete, St. Gianna fell into a coma. Pietro brought her home from the hospital. He laid her in the bed that they shared, and with her children sound asleep in the other room, St. Gianna died peacefully at 8:00 A.M. on 28 April 1962 with Pietro at her side.

In the photos of St. Gianna, in the recollections of those closest to her, and in her writing, the picture emerges of an intelligent woman who to a certain extent was ahead of her time. She loved all the good things the world had to offer: beauty, culture, nature. She loved her work and she loved people. In turn, she was much loved by everyone who knew her. In her we have the example of a beautiful woman,  a successful physician, a loving mother, and a devoted wife. But these qualities, as noble as they are, are not her most important attributes. It was her daily witness to the Gospel in all areas of her life and her heroic love culminating in her ultimate self-sacrifice that is an inspiration for women seeking to live a life of holiness.

In her own words:

“The most essential condition for every fruitful activity is stillness in prayer. The apostle begins work by kneeling…. Before acting, we lift our souls to God. The more we feel the desire to give, the more often it is necessary to go back to the infinite fountain of love that is God….

Our task is to make the truth visible and lovable in ourselves, offering ourselves as an attractive and, if possible heroic example….

Work and sacrifice yourself only for the glory of God…. If, even after all of your best efforts, failure seems to be the result, accept this generously. A failure gracefully accepted by an apostle, who has used all the means available to succeed, may be more beneficial for salvation than a victory. Let us always work generously and humbly; let us try not to look immediately for the fruits of our labor…. Remember that saving the world has never been easy, not even for the Son of God, not even for the Apostles.”


Guerriero, E. (2014). The Journey of Our Love: The Letters of Saint Gianna Beretta and Pietro Molla. Boston: Pauline Books and Media.

Pelucchi, G. (1994). Saint Gianna Beretta Molla: A Woman’s Life 1922 – 1962. Boston: Pauline Books and Media.

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