I just read another article on the “mommy wars,” stay-at-home moms vs. working moms. Really? Don’t we collectively have anything better to do?
In the 24 years that I have been a mother, I have worked part-time, full-time, have stayed home full-time and now I own my business. I can safely say that I have been in both camps.
I’ve been at public and private gatherings where other women have talked down to me because I stay home and talked down to me because I work. I don’t like to admit it but I’m guilty of doing the same thing.
It’s time we stopped the pettiness. We modern, educated, worldly women claim to be all about choice. We demand it. We have laws enshrining it. But the way we treat each other tells me that we’re all about choice only as long as it’s the same choice we would make. How dare anybody choose differently!
Can we please stop the judging and finger-pointing? So what if I go out to work and you don’t. So what if I made a different choice than you. Either choice has its own highs and lows, difficulties and triumphs. Neither camp is a picnic. The grass is not greener.
Ladies, let’s put our money where our mouth is. If we really believe in choice, if we really believe in empowerment, then let’s show it.
Here’s a novel idea. Start genuinely supporting each other, stay-at-home moms and working moms. Let’s learn from each other. Let’s stop beating each other up!